When trials come it can bring out the best or the worst in us, the way our spouse’s respond to sufferings can catch us off guard, but there’s one thing that we must NEVER FAIL TO DO in all circumstances.
An attitude of self-centeredness affects us all and sets us up for a life of endless pursuits to steal love and acceptance from others that leaves us with no satisfaction or fulfillment. Well, what’s the alternative?
These are the topics that we are writing about in this blog post, so read on to find out the answers.
We are continuing our marriage devotional blog series, where we are sharing what we have been learning from the book, ‘The Meaning of Marriage: A Couple’s Devotional’ by Timothy and Kathy Keller. Early into this year, we had decided to read this book together in order to work on our marriage, because we realized that the important things in our life need constant CARE and ATTENTION!!
You can read the previous posts in this series by clicking here.
Life is full of ups and downs, and at times we will find ourselves going through a season of suffering. Gold is PURIFIED by passing it through the fire, that’s when all the impurities come to the surface, and just like that, when trials and pressures come our way it’s bound to bring out weaknesses in our character. When bad things happen to your spouse he or she can appear to be a stranger to you because you might ‘see him or her as less mature, or strong, or wise than you thought he or she was.’ It would be helpful at that time to remember that ‘God sees us all the way to the bottom, with all our flaws and weaknesses, some of which we are not aware of even now, but he still loves us anyway,’ as the gospel clearly teaches. “So, LOVE YOUR SPOUSE as God in Christ loves you.”
Who is on the throne of your life?
We all live life thinking that we are the center of the universe; self-centeredness in varying degrees affects us all and is a great barrier to a happy marriage. The self-centered person is ‘always sure of every point of his or her beliefs. They are fault-finding, prone to self-pity, and never satisfied. They need a lot of praise and are easily offended. They tend to talk a lot about themselves and are poor listeners.’ The Bible (2 Corinthians 13:5) tells us that we should examine ourselves, not for the purpose of beating ourselves, but primarily, to ‘deepen our appreciation of God’s PATIENCE and GRACE,’ and also, to take steps toward becoming more like Jesus in our character. When ‘self’ is on the throne we tend to live our lives marked by ‘restless efforts to steal love and acceptance from others’ but when Christ is at the center of our lives we will find REST knowing that God’s LOVE and FAVOR is upon us.
We hope that this post would help you to LOVE your spouse well and build a STRONG and HEALTHY marriage!!