A Safety Net! Do you know that you have a safety net put in in your marriage? Read on to find out what that is!
Here we are at week 2! You can read week 1 of this marriage devotion by clicking here. So by way of reminder, a short while back we had decided in our marriage to work through a marriage devotional book by Tim and Kathy Keller, The Meaning of Marriage: A Couple’s Devotional: A Year of Daily Devotions, and this because we wanted to put in the effort, to build a STRONG and LASTING marriage relationship. And as a labor of love, we thought we would share what we were learning with you all, so that you all too can benefit from our labor. Well, here are somethings that have stood out in our recent foray into this book.
Work out new patterns of life together with your spouse in your marriage
We have a tendency in our marriage’s to model it on the basis of what we have seen lived out in our parent’s lives. But in a marriage union, a man and a woman come together to form a new unit, “a man leaves his father and mother and is united to his wife, and they become one flesh. (Genesis 2:24) Your Circumstances are going to be Different from your parent’s, and so you need to establish new patterns of life together with your spouse in your marriage, that fit your particular context, gifts, and needs. Your relationship with your spouse takes precedence over any other relationships in your life – your relationship to your parents, your relationship to your children. It doesn’t mean you neglect those relationships, it’s just that the order of priority gets realigned after your marriage, your spouse should have uncontested priority in your heart.
This was hard for us to implement during those early years of our marriage, especially for me (Asish). I can still remember how I used to be insistent that certain tasks in our home, be done in a particular way, not realizing that there are more ways than one to get to the same outcome. Well, I can confess that things have changed, we are still a work in progress!
Marriage is a binding covenantal relationship
Marriage is not just a piece of paper. In a marriage relationship you are covenanting or promising to give yourself to your spouse physically, emotionally, personally, legally, socially, and economically. It is a binding covenant, but it is binding in all the ‘GOOD’ ways that binding can be. It is very ‘FREEING’ to know that we are bound to each other in this covenant, it is a SAFETY NET that we know is not going to break, and that has helped us to really open up to each other, we don’t have to wear a mask, and that in turn has helped us to develop and nurture our relationship. The flowers BLOOM most abundantly in a garden that is most SECURE!!
We hope that this post would be helpful in some way to help strengthen your relationship with your spouse. So here are some takeaways that you can implement in your marriage:
- Take an inventory of your marriage relationship, make sure that you are PRIORITIZING your relationship with your spouse. Sit down with your spouse and find out if there are any changes that must be implemented in your marriage that would be ideal for your current circumstances.
- Seek to find out ways to ASSURE your spouse that you are in this relationship for the long haul, for better or for worse, through your actions and your words.