Marriage at least in large part, is a public institution, and not just a lifestyle option. The ‘BROADER GOOD’ of marriage such as reflecting God’s nature, producing character, or raising children has taken a backseat in our societies. A nation is strengthened when its marriages are strong. We are continuing our Marriage Devotional blog series based upon the book by Timothy and Kathy Keller. In this post we are looking into how marriage impacts our society and about the personal change that sustains the marriage in the long run. You can catch up on our previous blog posts by clicking here.
Marriage For The Good Of The Society
The redefinition of the purpose of marriage has had a very detrimental effect on the society. In the modern day context, marriage is seen as a means for finding personal fulfillment and self-actualization, whereas in the past people entered marriage with a sense of understanding of their RESPONSIBILITIES to God or society. This actually runs counter to the major thrust of the current younger generation who are clearly ‘intensely committed to public good—to social justice, to improving society, to making the world a better place for all people to live.’
In the past, people stayed in their marriages out of a sense of duty even though it was often less than satisfying; they operated out of a belief that getting married and having children was a CRUCIAL GOOD for society. ‘The private-happiness view of marriage also puts far greater pressure on us to feel passionately in love all the time, while the older view did not.’
The Need For Change
Marriage requires major LIFE ALTERATIONS. This was expected in the past when marriage’s were considered as a public good, but as times have changed, marriage now is being seen as something primarily meant for private, individual happiness. And so there is a negative pushback against any demands for major change by our spouse. But in a marriage when one is living in close proximity to another there is naturally an infringement on one’s independence; this requires us to not only make major alterations in our lives but also to maintain it through SELF-CONTROL and DISCIPLINE. And the need for change becomes all too urgent when you throw children into the mix. In this way the modern view of marriage runs into the sand and cannot be sustained in the long run!
We hope that this post would be helpful to you dear reader, we are praying for you!!